On the Surface, I seem to have it all... but inside I feel so disconnected...
I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer. ~Jim Carrey, Actor, Comedian, Human
It’s true money cannot buy happiness. In my research and while working with clients who “seem to have it all” but feel disconnected and unhappy, here is what I have noticed
They have similar stories…
Successfully sold company/ stocks or other investments are doing really well
Family members living on legacy wealth trying to figure out what they want to do with their lives
The person they love is high net worth or high profile spouse
Are a High Net Worth or High Profile / Famous Person
Retired with Plenty of Time, Money and Resources
Came into Money through Winnings, Inheritance or Trust Funds
And they have a complex mix of concerns, issues and insecurities under the surface …
There is a strong desire to have more meaning and purpose in life – that is currently lacking Things that used to give great pleasure, are now only somewhat satisfying or even boring Tired or not interested in “Keeping up with The Jones" Life just doesn’t seem real – and there is a feeling of disconnection Feel uncertain as to whom to trust – and worry about privacy Maybe event worry about losing their money Some feel guilt for having what they have
These issues and concerns can cause real unhappiness in their lives.
Unfortunately, to people outside the situation, it seems that those who seem to "have it all ” lead the charmed and happy lives… but in reality it’s just not true.
These “charmed lives” people called “selfish”, “spoiled”, “ungrateful” and worse for appearing not to fully appreciate what they have and others do not. To those the negative words are being said to, it can leave them feeling guilt, hurt, shame, distrust or disconnected. The fact is…Every human being on this planet needs to feel like their life has meaning, purpose and value. And everyone wants to feel connected, love and happiness. period.
In a perfect world we would look stop looking at what people “have” and start looking at “who they are as a human being” and go from there. But since we don’t live in a perfect world, those that externally “have it all” need to look within, and start a journey to figure out how to make their inside life feel whole, meaningful and purpose filled. This journey can begin by compassionately exploring “what needs to heal”, “who can I count on “what needs to change” and “what inner strengths do I already have” to help create a meaningful, satisfying and purpose filled inner life.
So what next…. It’s time to figure out what resources, support and tools you need to help you begin this journey.
Go pick out some books.
Talk to your friends.
Find a Coach or a Therapist to help you feel out your journey.
But do something… Because everyone deserves to find a happy equilibrium – and feel like you “have it all” inside and out.
And here are a few more quotes to inspire you to take the next step.
Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse
“When you have a sense of your own identity and a vision of where you want to go in your life, you then have the basis for reaching out to the world and going after your dreams for a better life.” ~ Stedman Graham